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LONG POST Hey guys so I recently caught my wife sexting another man that she met at her job she’s a chiropractors assistant and the guy is a patient as far as I can tell they’ve been talking since the beginning of march, from what she says they haven’t slept together or done anything it’s only been messaging, which is sorta believable as she was on her period the beginning and middleish of the month, she says she never really actually planned to sleep with him but liked the attention and the way he listens to her, but I found a whole playlist on her Spotify about wanting to sleep with this guy. Now heres my dilemma I got the guys number from her phone do you think I should contact him and try to get the full story from him before I make the decision to divorce or not? I also made her tell him she is in fact married and they can’t talk anymore. But like I said he’s a patient at her job so I doubt that can actually happen, and the other day she was having breakfast at ihop and was FaceTiming me but in the messages I found he was supposed to meet her there. I’m just so lost, angry, and confused at what I need to do, and to make matters worse I just had a vasectomy for this woman and she was messaging him while I was having it done. She says it’s over now and everything is in the open and wants to save our marriage but I’m still on the ropes. Does anyone have any advice?

So I was prescribed Buspar like two months ago and I have been actively putting off starting it for obvious reasons. Well today I took that leap. Can I say it's gone off without a hitch? No. But I am actively fighting my usuals urge to never take it again and give it a few weeks like my doctor said. And I read somewhere side affects usually only last a few days. So I'm gonna suck it up, and push through because I really really want this Med to work for my anxiety because it's been so freaking bad lately.

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There’s so much information online about functional doctors and what they do and I’ve been pulling those resources to use for minor issues that have been very helpful but when it comes to more serious conditions it can be overwhelming to know what to do, how to do it and when to do it. I’ve been on the lookout for a comprehensive guide or website or book of how to approach your issue but unfortunately I haven’t found any that match what I’m looking for. They were specific to a condition or diet focused which are great but I’m looking for example the names of the exact testing required for certain conditions the list of common supplements that are usually needed and how to work with your functional doctor. Because this is an “alternative” approach it’s outside of common knowledge we all have of the conventional model.
Before you say I should see a functional doctor, I will be! But I am planning to see a functional doctor next month. And even that’s too long to wait. I am 27F and I’ve been seeing a naturopathic doctor which was great last year with changing up my diet and I saw huge improvements with my moods/anxiety and energy levels. But not much improvement on my skin. Granted, she was not a functional doctor and did not offer to do those testing. Lately my psoriasis has gotten extremely worse and getting to dangerous stages. I’m in constant pain and nothing I used to do has been helpful. It’s been extremely stubborn to treat and calm down. Psoriasis is tricky because it can cause commorbidities and damage to internal organs from all the inflammation.
All this to say that I am coming this 👌 close to seeing my dermatologist to getting prescribed an immunosuppressant to calm it down for a bit before I start my long term plan with functional medicine. I know FM is something you’re in for the long haul but I just cannot continue living like this.
My questions here is would that be a wise plan or not?

So, I'm in the stage I reach every few weeks to months where my tics are cycling through. Fading of current ones, integrating of new ones, u guys know how it goes. But-- and this has never happened before-- there's this new thing happening where I'm having loud "vocal" tics but they're only inside my head. What I mean is: it's the exact kind of vocal tic I would perform in real life (picture a singing warm up where you make one of those high pitched up and down siren-like sounds but like, REALLY piercing and loud) but I don't actually have the urge to perform it in real life.
It's just going nonstop in my head. Just like how I can't control my physical tics, I can't get this mind vocal tic to stop, it's every few seconds. Again, I have no urge to actually perform the vocal tic, but it's happening involuntarily and internally. Does this make any sense? Has this happened to anyone else? Or am I going crazy and just newly experiencing some other mental issue lmao??

Hey everyone - I'm excited to be in a new campaign, and this is the first one I've played in Eberron. I want to play a character who is very into biology and chemistry, probably a multiclass with artificer and msotly wizard. She'll be fascinated by understanding the world, curious, and investigative. She'll be interested in different animals and alchemical cures for issues (probably going to multiclass with the alchemical subclass). I'm checking out the Eberron books, and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on a house to join, since none seemed particularly focused on science or magic for the sake of knowledge. Is it necessary to join one of the houses? I'd love any suggestions on character building with this idea in mind.

I have recently undertaken (and passed) assessment, so thought it may be beneficial to some for an updated summary of the proceedings. It is fairly lengthy, but includes up to date details of the process, which I hope you all find useful.
Day 0
You will be sent an email with links to the various cognitive/maths/English tests around midnight on the day of arrival. They will be available on the portal. Do not click into them, they are one time use. If you click them you may have to reschedule the whole assessment. Do NOT click them!
Do yourself a favour and pack well in advance, not the night before. Double check all documentation you are required to take. You will need two forms of id such as valid driving license, birth certificate or passport, as well as utility bill. Tickets for the train need to be collected from a ticket machine, do not leave it to the morning of travel! In the morning check trainline.com to confirm your train isn't cancelled or delayed.
I got to Lichfield City station and was one of the first in my intake to arrive. After a while loads of lads started filling out the station, no one really spoke as everyone appeared very nervous. It is fairly obvious who is there for assessment.
A member of staff in black came over and guided us to the car park over the road to the coach. We lined up against the wall for a document check. You are given your number here. Remember it, write it on your hand, type it on your phone. The staff do ask a final time if anyone needs reminding once you arrive, but don't be one of those candidates who needs reminding.
When we arrived, we dumped our bags under a covered seating area and lined up in three ranks. We then filed into the main centre and made our way into the lecture theatre. Blue coloured bibs are on the chairs, sit in the seat with your allocated number. We were told to put the bib on and sit in the chair. You get a numbered water bottle and a pen. These two things do not leave your side from now on. Do not lose either of them. We filled out a load of forms, certificates check and place them and your ID in an envelope, we were told to keep these safe until the morning when they would be checked and processed by the admin team. We were then led through to the classroom in groups to check army portal log on works and links for the tests have been sent. After this we watched a brief video outlining the next few days activities.
We then lined up outside, always three ranks from now on. We were sent for dinner at the cook house. Seated and then when ready sent one table at a time to the hot plates. The chef now takes your plate and puts the food on it for you, no self-service. Make sure you finish eating your meal before the staff are done. When told to line up outside make sure you tuck in the chairs and remember water bottles.
Back for ice breaker (name/where you're from, job choice and interesting fact or fear). Its short and sweet, some lads did theirs in literally 15 seconds. Pad it out a bit longer as that is a bit too quick, don’t act like you are rushing through it. Keep eye contact with the entire room, speak nice and loud and clearly. Add a bit of humour. We Then got a break down of Day 1 in more detail, then shown accommodation and given timings for lights out, breakfast, etc. Given access to the rec room. Given time to research roles and to speak to family, relax, TV, etc or access computer room to study for ACT if you haven't already. You are allowed to keep your phone on you for most of your time here, just don’t start using it when you shouldn’t be.
In the accommodation block we were told to put bibs on the end of the beds so if there is an emergency in the night we are easy to identify. Typical military bunks and a locker each. I've stayed in a few barracks in the past and Lichfield is actually pretty decent and modern, don’t get used to it. The pillows are awful, so good tip is to bring your own travel pillow. The bedding is laid out by the previous intake, so you have to make it. Our room agreed alarms at 0530. Many of you will know, barracks are usually either boiling hot or freezing cold. The first night we were all roasting even with the window open.
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Day 1
Alarms off at 0530. Get up and straight into shower and shave. It pays to be first here as hot water dropped off for the lads who went a bit later, and if you leave it too late you are queuing for the showers. Start drinking water now as urine sample is required sometime during the morning, but also your run is hopefully tomorrow, so stay hydrated today. Water is always available in reception for top ups or from sinks in the ablutions. Tidy up the room and make your beds as you have a brief room inspection before breakfast. Make sure lockers are shut, bags under beds and bedding is made. Put phone chargers away. Water bottle and pen, then three ranks outside and to breakfast. The bleep test is not until after your medical on day 3 so eat as much as possible today. Lunch is provided during your various assessments, but not in the cookhouse. Highly suggest no caffeine as it can affect ECG later on, although plenty of lads drank it and were fine. Personally, I went without as didn’t want to chance it.
Back to the lecture theatre. We had another brief power point presentation with a run through of the Army Cognitive Tests, which included examples. There were tips/advice given by the staff which was helpful. You are allowed pen and paper during the ACT’s so you can write things down to help if needed. You will be going between the classroom for tests and the med block for medical tests depending how busy it is. The admin team arrived and checked our documents, we signed the envelope and it was then sealed. After this we had a briefing by medical staff and briefly check med forms are correct. Required to wear mask at all times during the medical process. They hand these out so don’t worry about bringing your own. They take you through in small groups. I was led to a waiting room with about 5 other lads and told to take everything off apart from t-shirt, shorts, shoes, socks, jewelry is allowed if it is religious. If you end up in a waiting room, try to sit at the front as they call the front in first, otherwise be prepared for a long wait.
You are initially filtered through the below tests, the results of which are put into your medical folder. You can fail at this stage but will not be told until they have been reviewed by the doctor prior to having your physical examination, you will be told of a failure/deferral during this examination. The nurses measure height and weight, calculate your BMI, check your eye sight (if you have a recent optometrist report they seem to skip this step if the results of the report are within the limits), colour blind test (book with coloured dotted circles with numbers and you have to read out the numbers that you can see), ECG and potentially an echocardiogram and a hearing test. There is lots of waiting and queuing but to be fair I was never in the same spot for long. You may be sent off for tests in-between to speed up process. I was sent to the classroom for tests twice in a row because the doctor’s waiting room was too busy.
A few notes on the hearing test. It is a very hot booth; you will sweat in it. The test starts as soon as the door shuts and the beeps are a lot quieter than you imagine they will be. You still have to wear your mask at this point so you will hear yourself breathing, try to breath slowly and quietly.
During this process I undertook the ACT (useful link to practice these at the end of this post) and because I went for a trade, the TST. For this you are given 45 minutes. You are allowed to use (and given) a calculator. It covers GCSE level mathematics, so think ratios, percentages, decimals, averages, fractions, volume, speed, distance and time and a bit of algebra. Good resources for this if you haven’t recently taken your GCSE’s and need some revision, are BBC Bitesize and Corbett Maths. Don’t panic too much about this, you should be able to get the minimum required for your role if you revise two or three weeks before hand. I would recommend taking it even if the role you are initially going for (e.g. infantry) doesn’t require it. You have nothing to lose taking it, if you score enough (easily achievable) it can unlock other job roles you may not have thought about.
A note about the classroom – when you enter, keep your voice to a whisper as people will be in and out all morning undertaking tests. This also goes for waiting rooms in the med block, keep your voices down and don’t let your excitement/nerves get the better of you and you all start running your mouth. It will not go down well.
When you are finally seated in the doctor’s waiting room, you are asked to complete short medical form. It asks about close family history, if you have suffered any particular diseases or issues in the past. Do not lie on this form, be honest, but it goes without saying, there is no need to state anything if it is not on your medical records.
The doctor will check your blood pressure, your joints and tendons, lungs/breathing, eyes, teeth, movements, hip mobility. Discussion around anything declared by you on the form in reception and on your RGMD form your own doctor completed. You will be asked to strip down to your underwear and perform a few variations of walking on a line, e.g. on your tip toes, on the sides of your feet, etc. You will squat and duck walk, they will check neck rotation, shoulder rotation, flexibility to some extent and finally do 5 press ups and to hold the last rep. At this stage you either pass with a green bib and can continue, an orange bib means you are deferred, no run for you on Day 2 but you are fit to do the mid-thigh pull, med ball throw and the team tasks. A red bib is a fail. That means no exercise at all but I believe you can continue with the team tasks and interview. If you receive no bib at all, you are sent home there and then as this is a deferral for 12 months or a bar from service.
At some point after your deemed fit for service you will perform the mid-thigh pull and med ball throw. Mid-thigh pull is essentially a rack pull with a fixed bar. You will be given two or three chances to complete, and pull for 5 seconds with everything you have got. The best way to prepare for this in the gym is either deadlifts or if you are worried about form and injuring your back, rack pulls, which closely resembles this test. The med ball throw can be a bit strange at first but you shouldn’t need to practice it more than a few times. Prepare for this by doing bench press, dips and push ups.
You grab lunch from reception and eat in the rec room. We were then shown a DVD in reception showing 14 weeks of basic training and a chat from Catterick PTI regarding infantry. Reserves pulled aside for another chat on top outlining the reserves process which is slightly different. After this we got our boiler suits, gloves and helmets issued for team tasks on Day 3, and were told to leave them in the rec room. At this point the next intake of candidates had arrived. We were told under no circumstances should we approach them. At dinner we were given the opportunity to use the onsite shop. I used this as an opportunity to buy food for the travel back the next day on the train. I highly recommend trying to get as much sleep as possible for tomorrow.
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Day 3
0530 wake up call again. Start drinking now. Shower, shave, sports kit. Use any spare minutes now to pack your stuff away as best you can, as you will not have a great deal of time to do it later. Ideally, you want everything besides your clothes for interview packed away in your bags before you head down to eat. We also had to strip the dirty linen off our beds and lay out the new sheets as per pictures dotted around the block. Our intake was about 28 so no one slept on the top bunks, so we just copied the layout from those. Breakfast at 0620. Eat light as you will be doing the bleep test soon after 0800. We then waited in the rec room for the PTI to arrive and brief us on the test. He also went through a series of slides regarding healthy eating habits, fitness, what to expect at basic, etc. We were told to fill your bottles up and we were then led outside for test. Fill your bottle to the brim as it will be checked. You are split into groups of 7-8. You then meet another PTI to perform a warm up. The warm up was actually taxing and easily felt like the first 3 or 4 levels of bleep test, so be aware, it did catch a lot of us off guard. Start practicing the test at home with a 10 minute warm up prior, either a 1km run or a few levels of the test first.
We were told three strikes in a row do not count towards score if consecutive, so if you get one, catch up to get the next beep, get a second warning, catch up to make the next one, third strike you are out. Do NOT stop at your chosen role, you need to be a few levels above (if going for Para’s at 11.6 they stop it here anyway). You need to put maximum effort in and come off the test feeling like you are going to puke. Your interviewer will be watching at the side lines as well, so it really needs to be full on effort.
When you receive your third and final warning or they stop the test, you are led to a cool down, then into the rec room and your boiler suits. You are kept in the same teams as your run to complete the team tasks. You need to be vocal, even when you are not doing anything and waiting for your turn for example, you need to be encouraging your team members. Spend a few minutes, discussing as a team, everyone’s ideas and agree on the best one. It is key here that you all ensure everyone knows what they are doing and when. You need to work at pace, with a sense of urgency. We were explained you would be doing tasks such as this under enemy fire, so you need to be loud, you need to be shouting encouragement and you need to be moving at speed.
Once complete you will take off all your gear and place it back in the room. We were then given about 20 minutes to head back to the block, shower and get dressed for our interview, this was fairly chaotic as everyone seemed to finish the team tasks at a similar time, so people were queuing for the shower at this point. This is where packing when you got up or the night before will help you with time management.
We got to have a cooked lunch in the cookhouse this time, rather than a baguette. We were then led back to the lecture theatre for a final time. Here we had to sit in chairs at the back of the room, that did not have bibs placed on them, as a new intake would be arriving that evening. You wait for your interviewer to call your number.
You will be led through the back of the theatre into an office where you will sit down and discuss the following:
How you think you did, the army’s values and standards (know your CDRILS – not just what it stands for, but examples of how you apply them in your civilian life and how you utilise them in the army itself), job choice and info around that role. You don’t need to go overboard, but I would recommend knowing a good amount about the regiment or corps you want to join, the role itself, what is involved, where the regiment/corps are currently serving, etc. You need to know about phase 1 and phase 2 training, and give detailed answers about what is involved. Your interviewer will then go through the results of the cognitive and technical tests, your beep test score/run time, mid-thigh/med ball results and team tasks. They will then grade your score and issue your certificate. When there is enough of you done, they will minibus you back to station.
I managed to pass with an A grade. I kept my mouth shut and listened. If I didn’t understand something, I asked for them to clarify, it is better to ask again than to try wing it and get it wrong, I tried to be almost over the top confident, but not cocky or loud (but be loud in the team tasks!), I socialised just enough with the rest of the lads, but stayed away from the over the top throbbers thinking it is a weekend away at Butlins, keep your room tidy and your things kept away. Keep your phone out of sight unless you are on down time or the rec room. Sit up straight and don't slouch. Eat and shower fast and finally, keep your water bottle and pen on you always.
I hope the above helps ease some nerves of new candidates and gives an insight into the current process at assessment.
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I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (23M) since I started high school. When we first got together, we both knew that I was bisexual and had a stronger attraction towards men. However, I think my preferences have shifted over time. I used to believe that I wasn't sexually attracted to women because of societal norms and not having a clue how lesbian sex works, but I've since grown as a person and realized that I can see myself being with a woman in the future, both romantically and sexually.
Don't get me wrong, I still love my boyfriend very much and think he is my soulmate. But lately, I haven't been feeling sexually attracted to him. I enjoy seeing him turned on and enjoying my attention, but his penis doesn't really do it for me. I still enjoy our sex and he can turn me on, but I can't help but fantasize about being with a woman. I'm not interested in an open relationship or threesomes because I'm afraid of him finding someone else. I know it's hypocritical, but I can't help how I feel.
I also don't have the heart to ask him if it's okay for me to explore my attraction to women without him being present. I don't want to break up with him because I feel like he's my soulmate, but I can't help but wonder if I'm missing out on something by not being with a woman. I've had a low sex drive for over a year now, and I've been blaming it on my depression medication. But what if I'm just a secretly closeted lesbian?
I'm not sure what to do, aside from trying to change my medication. I know I should talk to him about my feelings, but we both suck at talking about feelings (I think we both may be autistic?). I feel lost, sad and confused, and I don't want to hurt my boyfriend in the process.

I am a 25 year old woman living in the UK. I spent my late teens and early 20s wanting to die. At 25 years old things finally started getting better in my life and for the first time in my life I wanted to live and was so happy. Last year I went travelling, began to feel more comfortable with myself and after I came back from travelling I got a job.This was my first ever full time job previously I have worked part time. Everything was going so well and then I caused my own downfall. I was stupid, naive and found myself in messed up situations which I handed poorly.
I had a well paying job in a large corporation. I was the youngest employee in the department and it was a very challenging job in a high-pressure department with lots of issues, I struggled with the cases and failed to deliver to the challenging client base. I fell deeply in love with an older male work colleague in his mid 50s, and I got heartbroken so badly and humiliated at work.
I loved how he made me feel. I liked how he cared about my wellbeing, gave me attention, he even messaged on his day off. If I had a problem at work he always came running quickly to help me. He was talking about looking forward to meeting ne again because we both remote work and sometimes the workplace organises events in the office for the team to meet. All my life guys ignored me and it felt soooo great to have a man finally see me. One day he completely distanced himself from me. It turned out he got back together with his 55 year old gf who he has been on/off with for over 20 years. He knew full well how I felt about him but he didn't care or even be honest about his relationship status until I caught him being dishonest. I hid the mans age from my family and friends as result everyone thought he was my age. When it went wrong I told my family the mans real age and it shocked the household. My grandmother is still horrified.
I also befriended an older woman work colleague and she was of those workers who got on so well everybody. I thought she was nice person as she was always laid back. I was always so good to her at work and gave her assistance with her work when she needed it which makes it hurt even more. I wanted someone to talk to as i was so hurt and struggling to deal with my attraction to him as i never fell in love with someone so much older than me before and I was so embrassed about my attraction to him. Her being a mother with kids my age I thought I had nothing to worry about. She was being so nice to me, comforting me as i was so upset. After she promised me not to tell anyone she went and told the man( the male colleague I am love with) our entire private conversation and the pair of them were gossiping about me. I only found out from another employee what she did. It was so embarrassing and humiliating. Unfortunately in our private conversation I really insulted the man as i was so hurt in which I called him an "arsehole".
The next office day the company organised she surrounded herself around all these male work colleagues in the company including the man. She was even going together with all of them outside for lunch including with the man. That day I realised I don't belong in my workplace.
Before I got fired my final days at work was spent being humiliated as result of her gossip and mans shitty behaviour because he also humiliated me at work too by spreading lies about me to our boss. I got fired for performance reasons as it says on my letter. No employer is going to want me because being fired is associated with failure. I am burden on my family being unemployed and I am loser.

A good girl looks her best for Daddy: she knows how her Daddy likes her hair, and dress, and makeup, and puts the effort into making sure she always looks her best for her man.
A good girl takes care of her Daddy: she helps keep his life clean and orderly and comfortable so that he can take care of her.
A good girl is happy to see her Daddy: she greets him with a smile and a beverage and is eager to talk about her day and learn about his.
A good girl wants to be useful: she knows her body belongs to Daddy, and that she’s his toy to play with. She welcomes every time her Daddy wants to use her, any way he can think of. If he wants to take pleasure in her holes, or release tension through her suffering, she is delighted to know that she can be of service to her Daddy.
A good girl welcomes corrections. She knows that she could always be a better girl, and that Daddy will never let her step out of line or be even a tiny jot less than the perfect good girl he knows she can be.
A good girl is between twenty-one and thirty-four years old, smart, submissive, reasonably together and knows that this is the life she wants, she is 420 friendly and longs to serve. She’s attracted to a Daddy who is forty-eight, nerdy, professional, experienced and, white, attractive but with a solidly cuddly body (i.e., going soft around the middle).
The less cute version: I’m a 48 year old Midwestern dom looking for a long term, ultimately IRL, TPE relationship with strong dark-traditional or 1950s vibes. Send a message.

Hi everyone. I'm going to write a lot because I felt like I needed an outlet for my voice so please bear with me. I realized how much I was writing so I decided it might be smarter to write here first what advice I'm seeking. I wanted to just see if anyone else had situations like mine and what you did to help your SO heal but also how you healed yourself without having your SO there for you 100% (9 years together you can assume that whenever there's a problem we run to each other to rant and always give 100% support to each other). Please feel free to read as much as you can below:
Me (24F) and SO (24M). My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years and have known each other since we were 10. We are both pursing doctorate degrees and I have 2 years left and then a 2 year residency. I guess our background would be that we started dating in high school and have grown together as individuals as well as grown together as a couple. We have talked about marriage and it's come to both our understandings that eventually when I finished my doctorate and he finishes his, and then we have stable incomes, we would like to get married. We do talk about our future together and joke about how our children if they get my personality will be a headache and a menace, so a future together is something we want but both agree that there's no point in a marriage if you cant support each other financially.
It's been a turmoil of events but a summary is that his mother went to her PCP Doctor and after an initial diagnostic x-ray, the doctor found that she did have a malignancy and to follow up with an oncologist a week later. A week later, we were still hopeful and his mother took an MRI to confirm staging of the cancer. My boyfriend was especially more hopeful because he had thought they had caught it early but a few days ago the new x-rays revealed that the lung cancer had metastasized to her spinal cord and her brain, making the definitive diagnosis stage 4 and inoperable. The part that is the worse is that she never smoked never drank alcohol and this was the outcome.
Throughout the weeks when my SO was taking his mother for scans and appointments, I knew to take a step back and let him breath and process things. I only check in with him to see how he feels and never push to meet him but I do tell him that it's an option on the table if he ever needed me. A few days ago when they found out about the brain metastasis, my boyfriend already knew what it meant and was already preparing for the worse. I made sure to let him know that I was there and turned on my sound notification for his messages only so that I could drop everything and be there for him (I sleep early and have a tendency to turn everything off.
I have experienced loss before when I was younger, but what I never experienced or was prepared for, was being on the other end and being someone else's rock when your breaking too. Because I knew from the beginning and only his parents and brother were aware of the situation, I had no one to talk to for the last few weeks. I finally understand what other reddit forums have been saying about you giving 90% and he can't give that 10%, because he's breaking too while trying to be his parents rock.
He will keep me updated on the situation every few hours but at night he breaks down when everyone is in bed and then confides in me emotionally. Its also hard because we have different sleeping schedules and I have to wake up at 5:30 for clinics (but I'm okay with the late night phone calls because I know it helps but still, sleep is nice). It's a lot to handle when you're breaking too and I caught myself today when I felt some resentment because I was never once asked how I was feeling throughout this whole situation by him.
I guess everything caught up to me and all my emotions came out finally. I confided in two close friends finally and felt better but still felt shitty. I decided to go to therapy because I realized I too need a rock (normally my SO is my rock) to get through everything right now. What I'm feeling is just helplessness because I know how much my SO is hurting and I can't be there for him physically because I want to give his family space. His family only recently told some other family members and I feel like an outsider looking in. I want to help and be there for them all but can't because they're all grieving differently.
It's hard to accept a sudden change when your no longer the priority and I don't want to resent my SO because of my feelings only. Thus, I decided on therapy and to keep sane until my appointment next week, I wanted to finally tell someone my story with no judgement and come here to reddit.
I don't know if anything I even said made any sense but it did feel nice to finally get everything out when I'm so used to running to my SO to tell him everything. And that's the hardest bullet to bite right now, that I no longer have my rock and I know that things will never go back to normal because we're no longer the same people we were a few weeks ago.
I'll will forever love him and we'll get through this somehow, but it's hard to talk about this with him when he's already going through so much. The least I can do at this moment for the both of us is to talk to my friends and a therapist, so that my emotions don't add onto his.
Thanks for reading all of this and helping me cope with the overwhelming feelings of feeling alone (but not truly alone) and the helplessness of everything happening right now.

IRS HR claims this is SOP for them, and that the (allegedly) "correct" step will be divulged to me by the time of the FO. I've never experienced anything like this before, where you're left hanging...and frankly gambling (and burning time) that they'll get it right in the end. My experience has always been that the TO will at least take a stab at the correct offered paygrade and step, since HR has the submitted SF50s in hand.

I have noticed a lot of really frustrated posts lately that projects took more time/were hardeweren't done as well as they would like on the first time doing a task.
Yes, there is the 10,000 hour rule to achieve some level of mastery, but there is also the 20 hour rule too.
It takes about 20 hours of a task to suck less at a new skill. That means for a lot of us that is more than one project phase on a machine.
You won't be awesome by 20 hours but you will likely be competent, have a few ways of working efficiently, and finish way less frustrated. Just be kind to yourself while you log those first 20 hours friends.

I'm a competent solderer and I have a hot air gun and a little miniware heat plate, but I've never soldered a BGA chip to anything before and I'm worried about messing this up! Is there anyone in the UK who would be willing to help me solder a chip to one of DNA64's adapters? My parts haven't arrived yet and I may yet pluck up the courage to attempt it, but if there's anyone out there who could lend a hand please do let me know!
(p.s. Please don't use the chat function, I never use the official app or desktop! Inbox messaging is fine though)

I am not trying to start a fight here.
I enjoyed the format of the series (played a few games of the franchise shortly; never completed any of them) and heard a lot of good things about Symphonia. So I decided to start my experience with the serie with it.
10 hours or so of game so far, the game feels very "meeh" to me.
It's a good game, but story so far is the usual 'save the from evil', the characters doesn't clicked on me, the battle system is okay.
So, what did I miss?
Am I judging the game too early? Does the importance of the game come from the context of its release or from changing something in the series?

*Major Kyle up on the controls, the cannons quickly jerk upwards as they continue to fire, another one shot down, thrusters burning, it slams into the deck with a loud bang as a quick burst of fire flashes in front of the turret's view screen, the Gunner yells* "THEY ARE TRYING TO KILL US! THEIR GOAL IS NOT TO WIN, THEY ALREADY LOST THE WAR, THIS IS JUST SPITE!" *The Firing Commander responds with a snarl, annoyed with the Gunner's obvious conclusion to the predicament they face* "NO SHIT! JUST KEEP SHOOTING THESE SORRY BASTARDS OUT OF SPACE!" *Major Kyle continues to fire at them, other turrets have stopped firing because they ran out of ammo and had to go get more, it's like a never ending swarm of these alien shits, Major Kyle yells out to the Firing Commander and the Gunner* "HOW MUCH AMMO WE GOT LEFT?" *the firing commander looks ay his screen and looks down at the stats displayed and quicky says* "FIVE HUNDRED SHELLS AND DROPPING FAST! MAKE EVERY SHOT COUNT!" *Major Kyle fires in quick bursts at the horde of alien Void Craft that were peppering the decks with missiles and plasma shots, aiming for weak spots, maintenance panels and windows, Major Kyle fires the last of the shells and yells out to the rest of the crew* "SHIT! WERE OUT!" *the Firing Commander yells out* "NOTHING WE CAN DO SIR! IT REQUIRES A RELOADING CREW TO GET THIS TURRET GOING AGAIN, WE CAN'T DO IT!" *the Major grits his teeth and looks and looks back at the horde of Void Craft and the lessening amount off firepower being fired at them due to other turrets loosing power or running out of ammo, the Major quickly, stands up from his seat and yells at the two men that have helped him with a voice of courage* "AND WHY NOT? WERE NEW HUMANS DAMMIT! WE WOULD HAVE PERISHED AT THE VERY BEGINING WITH SUCH A ATTITUDE! THERE IS AMMO BAY RIGHT BELLOW US! WE WILL LOAD ANOTHER BOX EVEN IF WE DIE DOING IT! NOW GET OFF YOUR ASSES AND FOLLOW ME!" *the two of them roar and follow the major down the ladder and down a small corridor then into the maintenance elevator to make their way into the ammo bay, they quickly reach it and run towards the box cartridges they need, the Gunner looks in awe at them and begin to panic* "BY THE STARS! THESE THINGS ARE FUCKING HUGE!! THERE IS NO WAY IN THE DARK HELL WE ARE MOVING THESE THINGS!" *the firing Captain yells out* "The turret can load itself! All we need to do is get four of these things onto the ammo elevator and it will send it up and load itself! Now push the first box into position!" *they all run towards one ammo box and grunt as the push it into the elevator, they can't get it into the elevator's slot that would send it up, no matter how hard they push, they try one last time and they all yell* "PUSH!" *only for four huge clawed hands to press against the ammo box and push it forward with them, it enter the slot and the elevator sends it up, they all turn around in shock to see who helped them, Major Kyle yells in surprise* "SARAH?!" *she grins and turns around to pull another box forward as she speaks* "I know your scent Major, I smelled you here and I knew I could help somehow, Now, Lets get you three back in the fight!" *Major Kyle and the other two men yell out* "HOOYAH!" *they assist Hive Lady Sarah in putting the cartridges into the elevator, with her sheer strength it was quite easy, after they load in the last cartridge Sarah speaks to them* "Ok your good! I will stay down here in case you need more ammo, you three go back up there and give them Hell!!" *the three of them nod and run back to the ladder to climb up into the turret again, Sarah speaks to Major Kyle as he gets on the ladder last* "Oh! And Major...Be careful." *Major Kyle gives Sarah a reassuring smile before climbing back into the turret and grabbing the controls again, the Firing Commander yells out* "We ready to go Major!" *the Major Kyle Grins as he prepares to fire with renewed fury*

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height	weight	race
5'3"	100lbs	chinese

i've never had prior issues relating to my posture, i've had a hernia surgery but that's about it. i am an athlete, so i'm constantly exercising and i believe myself to eat healthily.
when i was younger, i was a dancer, so i was constantly arching my back and practicing back flexibility. i was planning on training my back today when i realized that i think i might have some rib flare and an arched back when i normally stand.
i've always been on the thinner side, that's just genetic. as state before, because i am an athlete, most of my weight is in my legs or arms because of my primary sport training (soccer).
my spine is centered, however, it's just that when i stand normally, my bottom curls out and my back is angled back. however, my head still aligns with my waist.
i can't tell if i have rib flare or if it's because i'm thin. i have some photos of posture from the side (which i can't post here, but will post in comments if needed).

We adopted our now 2.5 year old dog when she was 11 months old. We don't know much about her back story other than she was abandoned and subsequently transferred from a rural shelter to a local private adoption center about 8 hours away (which is where we adopted her from).
Immediately upon adopting her, we realized she had SA mainly in the form of jumping on the door and howling. I grew up with dogs and somehow had never heard of SA and completely underestimated how hard it would be to overcome.
Other than the SA she's a great dog and we love her to death. Pretty good with other dogs and with people. We take her to breweries and other dog friendly places.
Right after adoption we researched SA and dove right into the Julie Naismith sub threshold training. Even worked with a certified SA trainer over zoom for 16 weeks (and $1200...). We got up to about 20 mins in that time, at which point our trainer said she believed we needed to see a veterinary behaviorist. So we did. Our girl is on Fluoxetine daily, and on a combination of Trazodone, Clonidine, AND Gabapentin for situational use (departures).
Even on this medication combo (when she's essentially high as a kite), she fights the effects like hell when we leave. We just left for an hour and a half and came back after she jumped on the door. We didn't let her escalate beyond that. Don't get me wrong, that's way better than where we started, but she's been basically capped at 60-90 mins for months with no further advancements and there's only so much we can do in that time. If it wasn't for my partner, idk how I'd be able to handle this alone.
We do occasional dog sitters on Rover and have gone to a doggie daycare a couple times. Unfortunately the daycare is crowded and not a great environment (constant barking) and I'm afraid that even though she has never shown aggression, it might just be too overwhelming for her.
This is really just a vent. We've accepted reality at this point that after a year of work, we've exhausted all avenues to help her with only minor success and we just have deal with it.
Edit: forgot to mention I WFH from home full time which is a blessing and a curse. My partner is a teacher and she leaves daily but our dog is never alone.