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2023.05.30 00:26 dislocated_day0 26M looking for a new long term friend! [friendship]
Hi! My name’s Alec, I’m 26, and from the great state of Pennsylvania. I’m currently looking to make some new friends and see what happens on here.
A little bit about me: I’m a gamer. I own a gaming PC, PS5, Nintendo Switch, & Xbox Series X. I play a good majority of everything from Fortnite, Doom, Resident Evil, Metal Gear Solid, etc.
I’m a musician. I play drums, guitar, and I attempt vocals on occasion. I love all types of music. I mostly lean towards rock & metal (Slipknot, Metallica, Trivium, Glassjaw, etc.)
If you think we’d vibe, then hit me up and let’s chat 😌
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A little bit about me: I’m a gamer. I own a gaming PC, PS5, Nintendo Switch, & Xbox Series X. I play a good majority of everything from Fortnite, Doom, Resident Evil, Metal Gear Solid, etc.
I’m a musician. I play drums, guitar, and I attempt vocals on occasion. I love all types of music. I mostly lean towards rock & metal (Slipknot, Metallica, Trivium, Glassjaw, etc.)
If you think we’d vibe, then hit me up and let’s chat 😌
2023.05.30 00:26 CraigScott999 Genesis - Turn It On Again (Official Music Video)
 | "Turn It On Again" by the English rock band Genesis is featured on their 1980 album Duke. Also released as a single, the song reached number 8 on the UK Singles Chart, becoming the band's second top 10 hit. The lyrics, by Mike Rutherford, concern a man who does nothing more than watch television. He becomes obsessed with the people he watches on it, believing them to be his friends. submitted by CraigScott999 to ClassicRock [link] [comments] The song is featured on the Flash FM station playlist in the game Grand Theft Auto: Vice City Stories. Background "Turn It On Again" was built from leftovers from projects by each member: The musical bit used as the chorus was conceived by Tony Banks for A Curious Feeling: "We kind of put [Rutherford's riff] – the bit he didn't use on Smallcreep's Day, curiously enough – with the bit I didn't use on A Curious Feeling, and put these two together. We made it much more rocky; both bits became much more rocky. My bit was a bit more epic, and Mike's bit was a bit slower and a bit more heavy metal. And then Phil gave it a much more straightforward drum part; perhaps neither of us would have thought that we would want that on that bit [...] We put on one or two other bits, too, that ended up from there". The song is characterised by a rhythmic structure uncharacteristically complex for pop music but common in the band's progressive rock back catalogue. The verse/chorus sections alternate time signatures, 6/4 to 7/4 (13/4), while the intro and bridge sections are in 4/4 and 5/4 (9/4). The riff written by Rutherford on which the song was largely based was originally much slower, but it was transformed with help from Collins. Rutherford explains on the Songbook DVD: "I had this riff [plays lead riff on guitar], but at the time I was playing it like this: [plays slower]. And Phil said, 'Why don't you try it in a faster speed?' and then he said to me, 'Do you realize it is in 13/8?' and I said, 'What do you mean, it's in 13? It's in 4/4, isn't it?' 'No, it's 13.'" Collins confirms: "You can't dance to it. You see people trying to dance to it every now and again. They get on the off beat but they don't know why". Tony Banks adds: "You can't dance or clap along to it because of that time signature. When we play it live, you can always see the audience getting caught out." Banks also recalls the use of a duck call on the track to trigger brass hits from a Yamaha CS-80 synthesizer: "…oh Phil had a duck… A trumpet or it may just have been a duck call that he used to trigger the sample to trigger the CS80 to get the sound". "Turn It On Again" has been a favourite at Genesis's shows. Consequently, the group's 1999 compilation Turn It On Again: The Hits and its 2007 expanded reissue, subtitled The Tour Edition, were named after it, as was the band's 2007 Turn It On Again: The Tour reunion tour. In the 1980s, the band would attach a medley of 1960s pop songs (referred to by the band as the "Blues Brothers" medley, as the first song was "Everybody Needs Somebody to Love"). The song would be returned to its album form for the We Can't Dance tour and the band would later regard the medley as a poor decision.[citation needed] Peter Gabriel played drums when he reunited with his former bandmates at 1982's Six of the Best show and found himself baffled by its time signatures. "It was typical Peter: 'Oh, I can play this'," observed Tony Banks. "But once he started playing, he kept looking around going, Oh fuck! 'Turn It On Again' does funny things – it's truly a Genesis song." Originally written and recorded in the key of B Major, it was transposed down to A for the 2007 tour and further down to G for the 2021 tour to compensate for the lowering of Collins' voice. |
2023.05.30 00:26 Geeklord1993 Updated USOOD cards list, still need help.
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2023.05.30 00:25 DrManhattansTaint Modern Rock Recommendations
I’m looking for modern rock bands that have keyboard/synthesizer players. By modern rock I mean anything post 2010. Hit me with your favorites and help me expand my pallet!
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2023.05.30 00:25 shrekals Drake the type of dude to be in a small band and surprise his band mates one day by saying, "Guess what guys? I got us a gig."
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2023.05.30 00:25 jonathanmcnuttmusic Releasing new album on Friday - electronic, ambient, instrumental post-rock type stuff (think Explosions in the Sky, Hammock, instrumental Nine Inch Nails Stuff etc). Hope you'll check it out if you're into that kind of stuff!
Here's a link to one of my favorite tracks: https://jonathanmcnutt.bandcamp.com/track/all-you-can-see-in-every-direction
And here's a link to the whole album: https://jonathanmcnutt.bandcamp.com/album/coming-home
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And here's a link to the whole album: https://jonathanmcnutt.bandcamp.com/album/coming-home
2023.05.30 00:25 Hi_BeeLove What niche Smosh series do you guys hope to see more of (eventually)?
I personally just discovered Dead Table Talks and those are some of the funniest I’ve ever seen. Shayne playing Elvis and Keith playing Chris Rock was ICONIC! I’d also love to see more of America’s Next Top “Blank” considering they were some of the first Smosh videos I ever watched and it birthed one of the most underrated characters, John D. Bad. I know both of these are probably old news by now but apparently talking about these things on Reddit works! So what do you guys think?
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2023.05.30 00:23 The_Hermitt 33 [M4F] - I miss having a good friend that I can flirt with, tbh
Greetings fellow flesh being;
To try and keep it short; this year has been off to a relatively rough and busy start. I thought of trying to give this a go since I've missed having a favorite online distraction.
I am a great listener. I'll be more than happy to lend a friendly ear should you ever need to vent or just talk about absolutely anything under the sun. I am a bit of a nerd when it comes to a lot of things and quite open minded. I've actually missed having those long, late night phone calls that could get deep at one moment, but be totally random the next. So calls could always be an option down the line too, although not a necessity.
If you don't mind having a virtual friend, who's flirty and potentially an online FWB as well as a pen-pal with whom you can engage with throughout the day whenever time permits, feel free to reach out. You'd be keeping this professional over-thinker busy and out of his own head.
A little about me: - I'm 33 - I work for a social media marketing firm as a business development and project manager - I'm studying (or at least trying to) for my certification in counseling and psychotherapy on the side. - Fairly average built, 6'1", black hair and brown eyes.
Interests: - Art, music (different genres from classical, to rock, to house and everything in between) - Science - I'm a bit of a nerd if you haven't guessed yet.
I should probably emphasize, so as to not waste anyone's time, that I'm not looking for anything too serious. At least for now. But we can definitely see how it goes.
P.S. I'm only interested in people around my age or older (30-40)
Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.
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To try and keep it short; this year has been off to a relatively rough and busy start. I thought of trying to give this a go since I've missed having a favorite online distraction.
I am a great listener. I'll be more than happy to lend a friendly ear should you ever need to vent or just talk about absolutely anything under the sun. I am a bit of a nerd when it comes to a lot of things and quite open minded. I've actually missed having those long, late night phone calls that could get deep at one moment, but be totally random the next. So calls could always be an option down the line too, although not a necessity.
If you don't mind having a virtual friend, who's flirty and potentially an online FWB as well as a pen-pal with whom you can engage with throughout the day whenever time permits, feel free to reach out. You'd be keeping this professional over-thinker busy and out of his own head.
A little about me: - I'm 33 - I work for a social media marketing firm as a business development and project manager - I'm studying (or at least trying to) for my certification in counseling and psychotherapy on the side. - Fairly average built, 6'1", black hair and brown eyes.
Interests: - Art, music (different genres from classical, to rock, to house and everything in between) - Science - I'm a bit of a nerd if you haven't guessed yet.
I should probably emphasize, so as to not waste anyone's time, that I'm not looking for anything too serious. At least for now. But we can definitely see how it goes.
P.S. I'm only interested in people around my age or older (30-40)
Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.
2023.05.30 00:23 muddymud4347 Hi I'm caden 17M [friendship]
Hi looking for some friends of any gender don't matter
I play video games like apex, fortnite, and deep rock galactic ( I doubt anyone knows that last one) If you play any of these you should def dm me
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I play video games like apex, fortnite, and deep rock galactic ( I doubt anyone knows that last one) If you play any of these you should def dm me
2023.05.30 00:22 G00DKlDMAADCITY Don't go looking for things you don't want to find, and don't ask questions you don't really want the true answer to. Oh and always... ALWAYS trust your gut.
This might end up being fairly long and if so I apologize in advance but I hope this ends up being as cathartic as I’m hoping.
Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
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Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
2023.05.30 00:22 PNWDeadGuy Today's haul.
 | I know, very modest haul, but didn't have either of these. Velvet Underground is one of my favorite bands, and this is not an original, but was happy to add it to my collection. submitted by PNWDeadGuy to vinyl [link] [comments] Queens of the Stone Age is probably my favorite band of all time. I'm waiting for their new album to drop, pre-ordered it, and didn't have this in my collection. All in all happy. I don't get to go to the record store very much anymore. |
2023.05.30 00:21 G00DKlDMAADCITY Don't go looking for things you don't want to find, and don't ask questions you don't really want the true answer to. Oh and always... ALWAYS trust your gut.
This might end up being fairly long and if so I apologize in advance but I hope this ends up being as cathartic as I’m hoping.
Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
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Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.
2023.05.30 00:21 lemiller96 Is this a good 3 Day Mount Ranier hiking itinerary for Mid-June (detailed below, open to suggestions/changes)?
Hi everyone! My friend and I have 3 days of hiking in Mount Ranier and this is what we have planned so far, and we want to know if it's a realistic itinerary and if these hikes are the best ones (open to suggestions if there are better hikes to do in each area, especially on Day 2):
Day 1 (Northwest area):
- Arrive around noon
- 1-4pm: Spray-Seattle Park Trail (just up to the waterfalls and back down)
- 5-9pm: Mount Tolmie Fire Lookout Hike (start at 5pm, plan to summit 8pm for golden hour, return before/around sunset 9pm)
Day 2 (Northeast area):
- 9am-11am: Sourdough Ridge Trail to Frozen Lake
- ???? Emmons Moraine trail seemed cool but idk
- 7-9pm: Sunrise nature trail for sunset
- Camp at Cougar Rock
Day 3:
- 8am-1pm: Skyline loop trail with stops at Myrtle Falls, Panorama point
- Around 2pm- Head back home
Thanks y'all! Super excited to see the beauty of Mount Ranier
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Day 1 (Northwest area):
- Arrive around noon
- 1-4pm: Spray-Seattle Park Trail (just up to the waterfalls and back down)
- 5-9pm: Mount Tolmie Fire Lookout Hike (start at 5pm, plan to summit 8pm for golden hour, return before/around sunset 9pm)
Day 2 (Northeast area):
- 9am-11am: Sourdough Ridge Trail to Frozen Lake
- ???? Emmons Moraine trail seemed cool but idk
- 7-9pm: Sunrise nature trail for sunset
- Camp at Cougar Rock
Day 3:
- 8am-1pm: Skyline loop trail with stops at Myrtle Falls, Panorama point
- Around 2pm- Head back home
Thanks y'all! Super excited to see the beauty of Mount Ranier
2023.05.30 00:21 Tanen7 Thinking about going to PC from Xbox
I’ve been watching a couple of YT videos on pc modding for Skyrim and it seems pretty daunting. Considering I’m 50+ and I have zero modding experience.
My son gave me his old gaming pc and as Skyrim is the only game I’ve really played for the last couple of years on my OGxbox I kinda want to try to upgrade to a pc version of the game.
One question I have initially is, do mods that work together on Xbox work on pc? Would my stable LO translate to pc?
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My son gave me his old gaming pc and as Skyrim is the only game I’ve really played for the last couple of years on my OGxbox I kinda want to try to upgrade to a pc version of the game.
One question I have initially is, do mods that work together on Xbox work on pc? Would my stable LO translate to pc?
2023.05.30 00:21 Naurgul 25 NAT0-led peacekeepers injured in Kosovo in clashes with Serbs outside municipal building
 | The ethnic Serbs clashed with NATO troops and Kosovo police in the municipality of Zvecan, 45 kilometers north of the capital, after they tried to take over the offices of one of the municipalities where ethnic Albanian mayors took up their posts last week. The soldiers fired tear gas and stun grenades to protect the Kosovar officers and disperse protesters, according to witnesses. The assembled Serbs responded by throwing rocks and other hard objects at them. submitted by Naurgul to europes [link] [comments] Serbian President Aleksandar Vucic said 52 Serbs were injured in the clashes, three seriously, and four were detained. “The consequences (of the clashes) are big and grave and the sole culprit is (Kosovo Prime Minister) Albin Kurti,” said Vucic. He referred to the Albanian forces in the north Kosovo as “occupiers.” On Monday, Kosovar police and the NATO-led Kosovo Force, or KFOR, were seen protecting the municipal buildings in Zvecan, Leposavic, Zubin Potok and Mitrovica, four municipalities in the north that held early elections last month. The votes were largely boycotted by ethnic Serbs, who form the majority in those areas. Only ethnic Albanian or other smaller minority representatives were elected to the mayoral posts and assemblies. |
2023.05.30 00:20 Aliebthinf I AM SO OBSESSED WITH THIS SONG
I’m so fucking obsessed with it I. Can’t breathe I’m going to die I have autism, diagnosed when I was 10, so I get attached to things very very easily. Like full on obsessions. Well right now it’s some band I’m into, no biggie, I always have obsessions. my stepdad told me about them, and he said hey if you like that band you should listen to this other one. So I listened and there is one particular song… and I’m not joking, I’ve probably played it at least 200 times since I found out about it a few weeks ago. It is now my favourite song in the entire world and whenever I hear it I get so happy that I start to actually CRY. Like I’m not the type to stim but this song makes me rock back and forth, bash my own head, squeal, giggle like a fool and flap like crazy. It’s stuck in my head almost 24/7 and I just want to listen to this song all the time because it makes me so happy. It’s Godstar by psychic tv lol but yeah I’m so obsessed with it. Like I can’t even focus because I just want to listen to it. It’s so good!!!!! I love it so so much it’s my favourite song in the world n I need to get it off my chest. Goooooodstaaaaar :p goooooodstaaaar! I want to be sick I love it so much. I want to eat it
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2023.05.30 00:19 Aliebthinf I’m obsessed with a song n I need help because I can’t stop listening to it
So I have autism, diagnosed when I was 10, so I get attached to things very very easily. Like full on obsessions. Well right now it’s some band I’m into, no biggie, I always have obsessions. my stepdad told me about them, and he said hey if you like that band you should listen to this other one. So I listened and there is one particular song… and I’m not joking, I’ve probably played it at least 200 times since I found out about it a few weeks ago. It is now my favourite song in the entire world and whenever I hear it I get so happy that I start to actually CRY. Like I’m not the type to stim but this song makes me rock back and forth, bash my own head, squeal, giggle like a fool and flap like crazy. It’s stuck in my head almost 24/7 and I just want to listen to this song all the time because it makes me so happy. It’s Godstar by psychic tv lol but yeah I’m so obsessed with it. Like I can’t even focus because I just want to listen to it. It’s so good!!!!! I love it so so much it’s my favourite song in the world n I need to get it off my chest. Goooooodstaaaaar :p goooooodstaaaar! I want to be sick I love it so much. I just want to eat it, it’s so good n it makes me so happy I could cry but it’s also getting me down cos all I want to do is listen to it :(
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2023.05.30 00:18 23blackjack23 Stopping and starting Qulipta
So, I’ve discussed stopping my daily 30 mg Qulipta with my headache specialist neurologist. She’s good with it.
My migraines are amazingly under control after getting rocked multiple times a day last summer. I can’t pinpoint the actual reason, but likely some combo of carnivore diet, quitting caffeine, daily 8mg Candesartan, no triptans ever, sinus rinse a few times a day and daily Claritin.
I should probably say that my gut is a disaster every night and I may be getting some sort of abdominal migraines. I had one migraine in the last 4 weeks and it happened that night that my gut wasn’t bloated/spasming. Can’t really explain that.
My suspicion is that Qulipta isn’t helping at all and I don’t need it. The neurologist said no need to taper, but I usually try to err on the conservative side when it comes to stuff like that.
Really, my big question is a) how long before I’d know if quitting Qulipta had no negative effect b) how long before restarting Qulipta before it would start helping again?
Thx for any help and thx for this sub, which is exceptional.
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My migraines are amazingly under control after getting rocked multiple times a day last summer. I can’t pinpoint the actual reason, but likely some combo of carnivore diet, quitting caffeine, daily 8mg Candesartan, no triptans ever, sinus rinse a few times a day and daily Claritin.
I should probably say that my gut is a disaster every night and I may be getting some sort of abdominal migraines. I had one migraine in the last 4 weeks and it happened that night that my gut wasn’t bloated/spasming. Can’t really explain that.
My suspicion is that Qulipta isn’t helping at all and I don’t need it. The neurologist said no need to taper, but I usually try to err on the conservative side when it comes to stuff like that.
Really, my big question is a) how long before I’d know if quitting Qulipta had no negative effect b) how long before restarting Qulipta before it would start helping again?
Thx for any help and thx for this sub, which is exceptional.
2023.05.30 00:18 ReeceBridger EK Breaks A £500 Guzheng, EM Threatens To Deport Employee If They Charge Her
Not my story, but I was a witness. This happened about five years ago and I'd completely forgotten about it until I went back to the scene a week or so ago.
I live in a city in the UK that's in no shortage of entitled people. I have my own stories, including one or two I've posted before, but this one was on another level. Close to the high street and the malls is a shop that SPECIFICALLY sells acoustic musical instruments—mostly guitars, drums, and a lot of folk instruments like lutes and mandolins. They also sell really niche, hard-to-find instruments including second hand ones, and depending on what they have in stock these instruments can be really niche.
About five years ago during the summer, I had some time to kill in town before I met a friend down the road so I went into this shop just to browse. I have zero musical ability but I'd always wanted to check this place out. In the back of the shop I saw an instrument that I now know to be a Chinese guzheng, a flat-laying string instrument with about 20+ strings. This one in particular was over five feet long, and even though it had some metal parts and some pearly-looking decorative insets, the bulk of the body was a polished dark wood. It was BEAUTIFUL to look at, and even though the shop has a policy where people can play any of the instruments as long as they're careful, I couldn't bring myself to touch it—especially when I saw it was priced at over £500, even marked second hand. Of course there were other fascinating instruments and other things in the shop, but the guzheng is the star of this particular story.
After about ten minutes browsing the shop, listening to people picking up instruments and jamming with the super chill owner (CO), I get ready to leave. But before I do, in comes EM and her little hellspawn, EK, who looks to be about 6 years old. EK immediately starts running around the shop poking at various display instruments while EM just hangs out by the door on her phone. Obviously EK was the one that wanted to be here, and EM couldn't give two shits. CO immediately stiffens and watches the kid as he runs around this really densely packed shop, trying to grab anything he can reach, giggling and shrieking with unchecked energy. EM still stays within a few meters of the door, on her phone.
Now remember when I said the guzheng is a flat-laying instrument? It's usually played on a table or a mount, and this one was rested on two sets of legs that held it pretty low to the floor—at 6-year-old height. EK sees it and barges over, starting to pick at the strings wildly. It's… awful to listen to. And even though he's been patient so far, this is where CO steps in.
CO: Miss, your son is--
EM: He's just playing. Just leave him alone. He'll get bored in a minute.
CO: But that instrument is really expensive. We have some children's guitars over there that he might like to--
EK: Mummy! I want the big guitar!
EM: No, EK, you don't even know how to play it. Now come on or we'll be late.
EK: But Mummyyyyy! I waaaaaaant iiiiiiit!
This is where it all goes south. EK grabs the guzheng and tries to take it off the legs. But this thing is taller than some full-grown adults, and it is a CHONKY beast. I guess this kid had enough freaky 6-year-old strength to lift it off one of the two legs before he let go of it completely. The guzheng crashes onto the floor, and the sound it makes is AWFUL. It's completely split down the middle of its length and at least one of the strings has split. It was probably quite old so it might have been more fragile than it should've been, but even so it's trashed, completely ruined. EK just starts freaking out. He's screaming, crying, and he runs straight back to EM.
CO: Oh, God! Are you okay? EM, is he okay?
EM: Of course he's not okay! That piece of rubbish could've crushed his feet!
(His feet were fine. He literally just sprinted across the shop back to EM, clearly in no pain at all.)
EK: I wanna go home, Mummy! Take me hooome!
EM: Come on, EK. If he's hurt himself in any way, I'll sue you for everything you've got.
CO: Hang on! That guzheng is completely wrecked!
EM: So what? It's just a weird guitar. If it was worth that much you should've had it insured.
CO: It's not a guitar. It's a Chinese guzheng and it was second hand! It was still worth over £500!
EM: Five hundred pounds for a chunk of wood?! You're joking! It sounded awful! If you think I'm paying for some used, overpriced Chinese rubbish you've got another thing coming.
It's at this point that I notice one CO's employees, CE, has come down from upstairs to see what's going on. Fun fact: the city I live in houses students from five different universities including two within a mile of each other, and these universities take in a lot of international students that are allowed to take part-time work in the city. CE is clearly student age just by looking at him. He also happened to be East Asian—and just going by statistics of the city here, most likely Chinese. EM also seems to notice CE standing there. She immediately pulls her phone out and points at CE with her other hand. She's going red in the face, moving herself closer to the door and pushing EK outside while she confronts the CO and CE.
EM: Was that thing yours, huh? You bring it with you from China? Fuck you, and fuck you if you think I owe you anything. My son's feet are probably broken and if I hear anything about this or see either of you again, I'll sue you (CO) for negligence and have you (CE) shipped right back where you came from. I've got you both on camera! I know who you are!
With that, she charges out the door, grabs EK by the wrist and bolts down the street. CO and CE just look absolutely shattered. The other people in the shop, including me, offer to help clean up, ask if they're okay. After a few minutes, I had to leave them to it as I was already late to meet my friend. In the end I never followed up on the situation, but five years later CO is still running the shop so clearly nothing happened to them. I took my now-partner in there a couple weeks ago, and they had not one but TWO absolutely beautiful guzhengs for sale.
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I live in a city in the UK that's in no shortage of entitled people. I have my own stories, including one or two I've posted before, but this one was on another level. Close to the high street and the malls is a shop that SPECIFICALLY sells acoustic musical instruments—mostly guitars, drums, and a lot of folk instruments like lutes and mandolins. They also sell really niche, hard-to-find instruments including second hand ones, and depending on what they have in stock these instruments can be really niche.
About five years ago during the summer, I had some time to kill in town before I met a friend down the road so I went into this shop just to browse. I have zero musical ability but I'd always wanted to check this place out. In the back of the shop I saw an instrument that I now know to be a Chinese guzheng, a flat-laying string instrument with about 20+ strings. This one in particular was over five feet long, and even though it had some metal parts and some pearly-looking decorative insets, the bulk of the body was a polished dark wood. It was BEAUTIFUL to look at, and even though the shop has a policy where people can play any of the instruments as long as they're careful, I couldn't bring myself to touch it—especially when I saw it was priced at over £500, even marked second hand. Of course there were other fascinating instruments and other things in the shop, but the guzheng is the star of this particular story.
After about ten minutes browsing the shop, listening to people picking up instruments and jamming with the super chill owner (CO), I get ready to leave. But before I do, in comes EM and her little hellspawn, EK, who looks to be about 6 years old. EK immediately starts running around the shop poking at various display instruments while EM just hangs out by the door on her phone. Obviously EK was the one that wanted to be here, and EM couldn't give two shits. CO immediately stiffens and watches the kid as he runs around this really densely packed shop, trying to grab anything he can reach, giggling and shrieking with unchecked energy. EM still stays within a few meters of the door, on her phone.
Now remember when I said the guzheng is a flat-laying instrument? It's usually played on a table or a mount, and this one was rested on two sets of legs that held it pretty low to the floor—at 6-year-old height. EK sees it and barges over, starting to pick at the strings wildly. It's… awful to listen to. And even though he's been patient so far, this is where CO steps in.
CO: Miss, your son is--
EM: He's just playing. Just leave him alone. He'll get bored in a minute.
CO: But that instrument is really expensive. We have some children's guitars over there that he might like to--
EK: Mummy! I want the big guitar!
EM: No, EK, you don't even know how to play it. Now come on or we'll be late.
EK: But Mummyyyyy! I waaaaaaant iiiiiiit!
This is where it all goes south. EK grabs the guzheng and tries to take it off the legs. But this thing is taller than some full-grown adults, and it is a CHONKY beast. I guess this kid had enough freaky 6-year-old strength to lift it off one of the two legs before he let go of it completely. The guzheng crashes onto the floor, and the sound it makes is AWFUL. It's completely split down the middle of its length and at least one of the strings has split. It was probably quite old so it might have been more fragile than it should've been, but even so it's trashed, completely ruined. EK just starts freaking out. He's screaming, crying, and he runs straight back to EM.
CO: Oh, God! Are you okay? EM, is he okay?
EM: Of course he's not okay! That piece of rubbish could've crushed his feet!
(His feet were fine. He literally just sprinted across the shop back to EM, clearly in no pain at all.)
EK: I wanna go home, Mummy! Take me hooome!
EM: Come on, EK. If he's hurt himself in any way, I'll sue you for everything you've got.
CO: Hang on! That guzheng is completely wrecked!
EM: So what? It's just a weird guitar. If it was worth that much you should've had it insured.
CO: It's not a guitar. It's a Chinese guzheng and it was second hand! It was still worth over £500!
EM: Five hundred pounds for a chunk of wood?! You're joking! It sounded awful! If you think I'm paying for some used, overpriced Chinese rubbish you've got another thing coming.
It's at this point that I notice one CO's employees, CE, has come down from upstairs to see what's going on. Fun fact: the city I live in houses students from five different universities including two within a mile of each other, and these universities take in a lot of international students that are allowed to take part-time work in the city. CE is clearly student age just by looking at him. He also happened to be East Asian—and just going by statistics of the city here, most likely Chinese. EM also seems to notice CE standing there. She immediately pulls her phone out and points at CE with her other hand. She's going red in the face, moving herself closer to the door and pushing EK outside while she confronts the CO and CE.
EM: Was that thing yours, huh? You bring it with you from China? Fuck you, and fuck you if you think I owe you anything. My son's feet are probably broken and if I hear anything about this or see either of you again, I'll sue you (CO) for negligence and have you (CE) shipped right back where you came from. I've got you both on camera! I know who you are!
With that, she charges out the door, grabs EK by the wrist and bolts down the street. CO and CE just look absolutely shattered. The other people in the shop, including me, offer to help clean up, ask if they're okay. After a few minutes, I had to leave them to it as I was already late to meet my friend. In the end I never followed up on the situation, but five years later CO is still running the shop so clearly nothing happened to them. I took my now-partner in there a couple weeks ago, and they had not one but TWO absolutely beautiful guzhengs for sale.
2023.05.30 00:18 Darling_Grey 23 [F4R] Illinois/US/Online - Trying my luck again in making friends
Hello!
I want to start off by saying that I'm mostly looking for female friends since a good amount of the guys I've gotten messages from before have made me pretty wary.
Anyways...here's a little about me!
- I love art and crafts. I occasionally like to paint or do little projects when I feel motivated or get a creative spark.
- I love to read. I enjoy a good fiction novel/series (especially fantasy/adventure). I also enjoy reading manga and webtoons.
- I love listening to music, especially pop, Kpop, and rock especially (Three Days Grace, Doja Cat, BTS, etc).
-I love Marvel (Captain America is my fav) and Fast and Furious (Fast X was pretty freaking awesome!), but I like a good action and/or comedy movie.
-I occasionally play games. I have a Switch and Xbox One with a few games. I enjoy playing Animal Crossing, Pokemon, and Sims, but I've also played Halo, Saints Row, Skyrim, a little bit of Fallout 4, etc. I just started playing Hades on my Switch.
I tend to be pretty open-minded, sarcastic, a little flirty, and quiet at times, but I do enjoy getting to know people! Preferably, if you message me, I want to talk to someone 21-30 who will stick around longer than a few hours (might be fine with as low as 18 depending on if we click well enough). Let me know what kind of books/movies/games you enjoy, or we could even talk about the MCU (I haven't seen Guardians of the Galaxy vol. 3 yet though!). I look forward to talking to you!
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I want to start off by saying that I'm mostly looking for female friends since a good amount of the guys I've gotten messages from before have made me pretty wary.
Anyways...here's a little about me!
- I love art and crafts. I occasionally like to paint or do little projects when I feel motivated or get a creative spark.
- I love to read. I enjoy a good fiction novel/series (especially fantasy/adventure). I also enjoy reading manga and webtoons.
- I love listening to music, especially pop, Kpop, and rock especially (Three Days Grace, Doja Cat, BTS, etc).
-I love Marvel (Captain America is my fav) and Fast and Furious (Fast X was pretty freaking awesome!), but I like a good action and/or comedy movie.
-I occasionally play games. I have a Switch and Xbox One with a few games. I enjoy playing Animal Crossing, Pokemon, and Sims, but I've also played Halo, Saints Row, Skyrim, a little bit of Fallout 4, etc. I just started playing Hades on my Switch.
I tend to be pretty open-minded, sarcastic, a little flirty, and quiet at times, but I do enjoy getting to know people! Preferably, if you message me, I want to talk to someone 21-30 who will stick around longer than a few hours (might be fine with as low as 18 depending on if we click well enough). Let me know what kind of books/movies/games you enjoy, or we could even talk about the MCU (I haven't seen Guardians of the Galaxy vol. 3 yet though!). I look forward to talking to you!
2023.05.30 00:18 PresentPerformer602 Xbox to pc
Is there a way to transfer saved games and dlc packs and suck from the Xbox one to a PC?
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2023.05.30 00:16 Unlucky-Alps-4969 Mtv animation
In the mid-2000s, there was an animated show that used to air on MTV, and I really liked it, but I can't remember the name. It was about a girl who had an 'emo' style and had a band. In one episode, her intimate photos were even leaked... that's all I can recall! Does anyone know the name? I would love to watch it again
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